Relationship Sabotauge Happens For a Myriad of Reason , for None of Which is Your fault...I Consulted a Client for Decades , She had a Myriad of Relationships & in Every One of those Poor Men , She Looked for Them to "Make a Mistake" & if She Couldnt Find a Mistake she Manufactured One in her Poor Insecure Mind....I Recall One Episode she was Dating a Man Who had very generously Given her Diamond Earrings for her Birthday & took her to Dinner...A the Restaurant she "Accused Him of Looking at Other Women" & Off With His Head..If I Would of Broken Up With EveryMan that Gazed at Another Woman I wouldnt of Gotten past the Second Date !! Nature of the Beast Get Over it :) ...She Was ADDICTED to the Drama of Arguments , Panic of "Will I Ever Get Him Back , Will He Beg Me To Come Back Followed By the Sweet Surrender Of Romantic Forgiveness that Followed....She ESPECIALLY LOVED PLAYING THE VICTIM & COMMANDING EVERYONES ATTENTION ON HER..Even at the Expense of Her Own Children Who's Arms were Tired Holding Mom UP 24/7.... This Pattern Stems from "Anxiety Disorder" And Usually Quite Often Happens in Children Of Alcoholics ! Where there was an Abundance of Dysfunction Growing Up & Calm Normalcy Did "Not Feel Right as an Adult" So She ReCreated Conflict to Feel "At Home"....Until She Starts Looking for the Positve in Men , instead of the Negative She Will Never be Happy , Nor Will Any Man Unfortuneate enough to be With Her .....If You are More UNhappy in a Relationship than Happy "Get Out" .....Some are Notorious When they Want "Space" , or to Explore Other Options because at some point in Every of their Past Relationship they thought the Grass May be Greener on the Other Side , but they Lack the Courage to Tell their Mate , or Fear AHHHH The Dreaded Water Works , or World War 3,4 ,.and 5 Egads ! So they Purposely Start Arguments so their Mate Will Get Mad & Back Off for Awhile = Hence Needed Space....Its Like Pulling Off a Bandage Too Slow & Too Early ..Better to Explain "Sweetie Im Crazy About You but I Need Some "ME" Time to Regroup , and if I Dont Im afraid I will Resent Us".....HONESTY IS ALWAYS THE BEST POLICY !!! If Someone Needs Space You SWEETLY , CALMLY, LOVINGLY Give Them Even "MORE" Space than they Bargained for...& dont wait till they Verbally Express it ..I've personally Known Men Who Cancel Many Dates in a Row to Make the Woman Mad...IF you See , Feel Your Mate is Detaching , dont Announce it but Back off Yourself ..Just NOT in an Angry Manner....NOT in an Abrupt Manner....Wishing ALL of You LOVE Light & Laughter in Your Relationships !!! Remember to Be Each Others BEST FRIEND !!!!! I Usually Sign On Keen Mornings Eastern Time..... "Clairvoyant Channa"![]()
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