There can be said to be something most true when it comes to those in whom we find attraction and a direct result of how strong we are within ourselves.
This can be aptly described as our own self-worth.
You see, how strong or how weak you perceive yourself to be will be in direct proportion to the type of person that you attract as a soul mate. The same can be said to be true of your partner, as well.
Spring has always been said to be a time of cleansing. It can also be in a metaphorical sense a time for purging negativity from your emotional life and thus your emotional self.
The greatest chance that you stand to have happiness and joy simultaneously is when you allow for full indwelling of that which is healthy in your life. People are like good or bad habits that you chose to engage in. You must find strength in the foundation beneath your feet to ever be able to hope to find it in love.
Should you find that you are continually attracting negativistic attributes in your partners, then you might want to examine first your relationship with yourself at this point existing backwards in time to your early life.
Patterns are just that: they repeat in our lives until such time as we make them a part of our history. This comes about when we graduate from the lesson that created the interaction in the first place.
Even if your know deep down that you have some things in your own life to work through, you will always have it in the front of your experience until such time as you make the advancement your own. This advancement comes from accepting flaw, working through imperfection, and then achieving optimal experience.
The work must be done in your life before the pursuit of happiness begins. That is, unless you want to take on double the intensity of the lesson that the Universe is trying to deliver to you.
You can never find what you are looking for in another person, unless you first find it in yourself. This is hard for many to accept. Yet it is a fundamental law of the Universal Law of Attraction.
In choosing your identity, you are choosing the identity of your future partner, as well.