But, how do you decide what to do after betrayal in a relationship? If you are the cheater, or you have been cheated on, figuring out next steps can be one of the most painful and confusing times in a person’s life. Circumstances differ but here are some things to consider….
Were you cheated on?
Be it with your partner or without, you must move forward with you life and allow love in. Letting go of pain and insecurity and trusting again is vital. Don't expect to just bounce back. Go step by step.
You are not to blame. Steer away from trying to make sense of your cheating partners actions. Dishonoring the relationship is never ok, but sympathy is even less ok - whats needed is responsibility.
Just allowing time to pass (in an effort to heal) is useless. This is real and it has to be dealt with. Talk to a counselor. Get help from reliable sources online. Find a reader that you TRUST and use them as a tool to help you bring light to what is best for you and how to maneuver through this difficult time.
Ask yourself are you better on your on than in a toxic relationship that lowers your spirit.
If you decide to stay, or if your partner is begging you not to leave, don't beat yourself up. BUT make your partner earn your heart. Now is the time to renegotiate your relationship.
If, on the other hand, you feel "Know what? I'm outta here. I'm leaving. I'm not angry, but I can't live like this with you. You go your way, I'll go mine". Then stand in that power. Try to be objective and clearly see where you want your life to go. Take the steps that work for you to get there.
Remember that kids are better off with two whole and happy separate parents than two broken, miserable, fighting parents that can't resolve anything. And, remember that you are better for them when you are thriving and setting a positive example that when you are stressed out, lying, screaming or cheating.
If the infidelity resulted a child; don't think that is not a small thing that will go away. It will not. Your spouse/partner will have a relationship and responsibility to that child for a lifetime. Whether or not you can find resolve with that and tolerate it, and potentially love the child, is between you and your higher power.
Did you cheat?
Just own it. Own it all: all the problems you created, al the hurt, all the anger. Admitting there is a problem is the first step toward healing.
Don't compare the two relationships. It isn't fair or realistic to compare a new a exciting clandestine relationship, that you experience a few hours a week, with a the daily routine of life and bills and kids and a spouse that you are deeply involved with (and/or irritated by). To do so would be silly.
If you are serious about keeping your spousal relationship - cut off the other person 160%. That means ENTIRELY. You cannot move on from something you are still engaging.
Use your head - the one above your shoulders. Relying on your heart is what got you here in the first place. T-H-I-I-N-K. What is rational? Makes the most sense for the health of your children. What is the real direction you want for your life?
Get ready for some tough calls. Do you stay or do you go? If you leave your partner, remove yourself entirely. Don't leave chords and strings to be cut later.
If you decide to stay, take real inventory of your relationship and be willing to do whatever necessary to heal the relationship.
Grow up. Take inventory of yourself and your behavior. It’s not all about you. Who are you hurting because something makes you feel good? What are you sacrificing for a moment of pleasure?
Get guidance. Talk to a counselor or psychic advisor. Cover all the bases. What will life bring ether way… and then…
Get real. As you take stock of your life and behavior, ask yourself - are you truly going to honor your commitment? Truly decide in your soul and go from there.
Be there for the partner who was suffered. That means being responsible. Checking in several times a day, showing up on time, and earning back the trust. And it won't be a quick process. 
If a child was born of the infidelity, you will have to have contact with the other person in order to be co-parents. And you do this the right way by not having any contact without your spouse's involvement. If you want to talk with the other person, then you do it with your spouse present.
If you leave your marriage and you have children together, understand and accept that your relationship with your ex will never end. You will be co-parents of your children. Work on building a new relationship as allies.
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