Do you find yourself
attracting the same type of lover/relationship? Things seem to go
well...you are getting closer, you are finding yourself thinking this
could be fun and then all of sudden for one reason or another things
seem to go horrible awry? Perhaps you find yourself attracting the same
type of person...they take but give little...they say a lot but take
very little action...they generally seem to start off wonderful,
appearing to be your Knight and then suddenly they are the court jester
and your the butt of the joke.
For those of you whom I have had the pleasure of reading for you already know that I am a believer in personal influence. We must look inward and see what about us is attracting these same type of relationships and people. Are there qualities about ourselves which we sometimes may choose to ignore that are actually mirroring the relationships and people within our lives? Chances are there are.
One of the first steps that I provide my clients in manifesting the lover they truly want is to make a list. If it sounds simple it is because it is! List the qualities that you desire in a lover. Loyalty, consistency, adventurous, honest, romantic, etc. etc. List them ALL and do not be shy. Now this is not a list where you start to name off the physical attributes that you desire, that can come at another time. This is a list for the qualities that you seek in a partner.
So you've made your list, now what? Become those qualities. Every single one of them. Not only do those qualities place you in perfect vibration to attract the same back to you but it also increases the chances that you are going to find the person you are looking for. If you want to attract someone who is adventurous you certainly cannot do that if you're too afraid to venture beyond your four walls...likewise you will not meet someone who is outgoing and friendly if you are walking around barely talking to anyone and keeping your eyes trained downward with a scowl on your face.
Secondly, be aware of the emotional and psychic broadcast that comes from you. We all emit energy, some people do not realize they are picking up on it when they encounter someone but they are. If we are sitting back thinking how unlucky in love we are or how we never get happiness in love then we are emitting that to everyone who we encounter, near or fear. If you are sitting back and are so concerned with the destination to a potential relationship instead of relaxing and enjoying the ride that is broadcasting as well. If you do not want to emit desperation, negativity, and other qualities which drive others away in your broadcast then its very important to embody the qualities you do wish to attract and to emit to others!
Thirdly you must believe and see this person coming to you. It doesn't matter how, it doesn't matter where or what this person looks like but you but affirm that this person, the RIGHT person is en-route to you. To try to place too much focus on the how or where then you end up taking your vibration towards something you cannot control, the Universe will decide when, where and how this person comes to you...you will decide the person. Create affirmations which you repeat daily, sometimes several times a day which affirm that this lover is approaching you.
Things such as:
~A lover who is perfect for me is entering my life!
~ I am lucky in love and the perfect partner is mine!
~ It is easy for me to express Love and in return, it is easily expressed back to me!
~I attract only those who have my highest good in heart!
~I am lucky in love, there is always more than enough love being directed to me!
These are just a few examples of the affirmations you can create for your perfect lover. The important thing is that you express affirmation of HAVING these things, or this lover...not that its coming towards you or that you want it...because that simply attracts the state of "coming" not "having".
As Ive expressed in previous blog posts its important to put feeling behind this. When you think of yourself unlucky in love or being without love you are not just thinking those things, you are feeling those things. You must in turn apply positive emotion towards your desire to have good luck in love, to have the perfect partner. See yourself with this partner, feel the way you would if you were with them, shopping for groceries, spending an afternoon down by the ocean together....allow those feelings to come over you as you repeat your affirmations!
When you get down to it having the perfect lover and the RIGHT relationship is all about what you put out there. Though we sometimes feel that the fate of our relationships are dependent upon others in truth it depends all upon ourselves and what we attract and thus allow in our lives!
Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings and make those thoughts and feelings align with the future you want!!!
Blessed be!
For those of you whom I have had the pleasure of reading for you already know that I am a believer in personal influence. We must look inward and see what about us is attracting these same type of relationships and people. Are there qualities about ourselves which we sometimes may choose to ignore that are actually mirroring the relationships and people within our lives? Chances are there are.
One of the first steps that I provide my clients in manifesting the lover they truly want is to make a list. If it sounds simple it is because it is! List the qualities that you desire in a lover. Loyalty, consistency, adventurous, honest, romantic, etc. etc. List them ALL and do not be shy. Now this is not a list where you start to name off the physical attributes that you desire, that can come at another time. This is a list for the qualities that you seek in a partner.
So you've made your list, now what? Become those qualities. Every single one of them. Not only do those qualities place you in perfect vibration to attract the same back to you but it also increases the chances that you are going to find the person you are looking for. If you want to attract someone who is adventurous you certainly cannot do that if you're too afraid to venture beyond your four walls...likewise you will not meet someone who is outgoing and friendly if you are walking around barely talking to anyone and keeping your eyes trained downward with a scowl on your face.
Secondly, be aware of the emotional and psychic broadcast that comes from you. We all emit energy, some people do not realize they are picking up on it when they encounter someone but they are. If we are sitting back thinking how unlucky in love we are or how we never get happiness in love then we are emitting that to everyone who we encounter, near or fear. If you are sitting back and are so concerned with the destination to a potential relationship instead of relaxing and enjoying the ride that is broadcasting as well. If you do not want to emit desperation, negativity, and other qualities which drive others away in your broadcast then its very important to embody the qualities you do wish to attract and to emit to others!
Thirdly you must believe and see this person coming to you. It doesn't matter how, it doesn't matter where or what this person looks like but you but affirm that this person, the RIGHT person is en-route to you. To try to place too much focus on the how or where then you end up taking your vibration towards something you cannot control, the Universe will decide when, where and how this person comes to you...you will decide the person. Create affirmations which you repeat daily, sometimes several times a day which affirm that this lover is approaching you.
Things such as:
~A lover who is perfect for me is entering my life!
~ I am lucky in love and the perfect partner is mine!
~ It is easy for me to express Love and in return, it is easily expressed back to me!
~I attract only those who have my highest good in heart!
~I am lucky in love, there is always more than enough love being directed to me!
These are just a few examples of the affirmations you can create for your perfect lover. The important thing is that you express affirmation of HAVING these things, or this lover...not that its coming towards you or that you want it...because that simply attracts the state of "coming" not "having".
As Ive expressed in previous blog posts its important to put feeling behind this. When you think of yourself unlucky in love or being without love you are not just thinking those things, you are feeling those things. You must in turn apply positive emotion towards your desire to have good luck in love, to have the perfect partner. See yourself with this partner, feel the way you would if you were with them, shopping for groceries, spending an afternoon down by the ocean together....allow those feelings to come over you as you repeat your affirmations!
When you get down to it having the perfect lover and the RIGHT relationship is all about what you put out there. Though we sometimes feel that the fate of our relationships are dependent upon others in truth it depends all upon ourselves and what we attract and thus allow in our lives!
Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings and make those thoughts and feelings align with the future you want!!!
Blessed be!