Think You're Terrible @ Relationships?? Consider this....

I hear it said many ways,
"I'm not good at relationships."
"I ruin relationships."
"Some how I screw up every relationship I get into!"
"I'm terrible with men!"
"I have terrible luck with men!"

Have you ever made any of those statements? Even believed them? If so, you are far from alone in your beliefs. And you're wrong. Oh sure if you're never doing your share of what's right and always doing more than your share of what's wrong.... maybe you're right... but most people who believe they're bad at relationships are just plain wrong.

We aren't supposed to work out with every person we get involved with.
95% of the people saying those things are not good at something alright, they're not good at choosing who to have relationships with in the first place.
I made number 1 bold and if you've been believing you were bad at relationships, go a step or two further with it. Print it out and put it next to your bathroom mirror.... or have it tattooed backwards on your forehead so you'll see it in every mirror. But seriously, quit feeling and believing you're a failure at relationships just because most of them don't work out.

Most of them don't work out because most of them aren't supposed to. It's a bad fit. Seemed like a good idea at first, but as more details are revealed, the relationship becomes impossible.
a nosy person and a private person
an Obama Democrat and a Limbaugh Republican,
one loves loud heavy metal and the other one would rather hear something soft and classical in the background....
These can be real deal breakers, let alone he thinks he requires two women and you require a man that only wants one.

I don't care how good looking he is, how much money he makes or how great he is in bed, every rule, value and belief you don't share or at least sincerely respect is a rough spot that wears away at the threads that hold your relationship together.

So, good news. Relationships, you're probably pretty good at! It's just picking your partners you've been less than your best at. When you change that, you'll be surprised at how much more you can enjoy bad boys without expecting them to turn into your Mr. Right.

It also makes it much easier to sift the chaff from the grain and actually find a man that fits with you. Your goal should NEVER be just to get married. If your goal is marriage at all it should be a marriage that you and your husband can truly enjoy for as long as it lasts. The difference in those two goals is only a few words and they make a monumental difference in the quality of your marriage and the foundation you raise your kids on.

I'll ice this cake with: 'never decide a man is THE ONE for you when you're drunk on alcohol and / or infatuation' and you'll probably be alright now. No rush though. Do it any way you like for as long as you like. That's what I did. But really, you're no worse at relationships than anyone else. We aren't supposed to work out with every person we get involved with. So lighten up on you.

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Thank you Lollie,for keeping me in line when I need it, supporting me when I need it, being blunt and honest in a loving sort of way. JUST AS YOU SAW there was good reason, I was relieved, was definately a different busy than the normal busy, and they made a specific call at 10:30 at night to explain it all, apologize and find out how I was doing. Hmm, eating crow doesn't taste good, but I am glad it is your recipe! Thanks darlin'!

She's so FAST!

Thank you very much. I am looking forward to this summer. Lollie is so amazing. Quick and so accurate.

You really aren't bad at relationships.
So quit telling yourself you are.