Recently, I had the pleasure of being hung up on by a caller when I told her that her relationship with her boyfriend had entered a period of instability, and it was likely to remain that way for quite a while, assuming it didn't end outright. After hearing the phone click off, my first instinct was to be hurt...after all, I was only trying to help, warn, and I am only human, and I know that I was right about it. Upon reflection however, I realized this person was in a fragile state of mind, and like many of us, she wanted what she wanted when she wanted it, and what she wanted was assurance from me that all was really good, and I couldn't give it to her. She was already beginning to feel his discontent, which is why she called in the first place. It's not that I wouldn't like to give her that assurance, I simply couldn't. I am an astrologer. I look at the facts that your chart tells me and the possibility that what you seek is actually going to materialize. I'm not going to lie--I can't, I won't, it ain't happening. Not that I don't present things in a gentle and kind manner. But, to lie or mislead would not only do the caller a disservice, it would be a disservice to me as well. Not to mention the information would simply be incorrect, and then the caller would be mad.
Someone I know very well recently had a Saturn square Jupiter. The definition of this is generally relates to money, expense, loss of faith in the Universe. We had been watching this transit for a year, and she was warned in advance. She took the warning seriously and paid off most of her debt. She made house payments several months in advance, and saved all she could. The aspect finally hit in mid-April-May. About that time a bigger tax bill than she expected arrived, and a number of reoccurring bills that all hit at once. It was overwhelming. But, having paid her bills in advance, and having put some money away in savings she was able to squeak through, and see her way clear in a few weeks. It wasn't easy, but she made it and moved on.
Had she gotten angry and disregarded the information what would have happened? Probably excessive debt that would take a long time to pay, and she would have been in hock with the IRS and accruing interest on the amount owed!
Yes, it was depressing hearing this in the beginning. But, the point is that she made the best of a bad situation and is now moving on with the next adventure in life as opposed to crying the blues over money for months to come.
Another woman I read for has Uranus squaring her Venus. The typical definition of this is an unstable love life. Again, we watched the transit for a while, it hit and her relationship became unstable. She is still hanging in there, and has decided to put the relationship she is in on the back burner. She is not leaving the situation for good, simply putting it on hold while understanding (as evidenced by her boyfriend's recent actions) that the stability she seeks is simply not available now. Not that it won't be in the future--it's just not there right now.
In this way she is dealing with her life, looking for new adventures (or a new person) that might come her way until such a time that personal stability is available to her. She hasn't given up on the dream of a happy personal life, she is just pushing it forward for another day and focusing on the things that are available to her right now in the moment.
Situations like these represent "a Bad reading that is Good." We all want to operate on our own time frame. But, the Universe sometimes has other ideas of when the time is right, and sometimes the universe laughs out loud at our plans.
Astrology is to empower yourself and build your life in the way you want it. The purpose of astrology is to know when the time is right and to be warned of situations that may prove problematic in the future. In a nutshell, to overcome, and to accomplish whatever you seek. This reminds me of the Bible verse that was turned into a popular song by the Byrds.
"To everything there is a season
And a time for every purpose, under heaven
A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep
A time to build up, a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together
A time of love, a time of hate
A time of war, a time of peace
A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing
A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time to love, a time to hate
A time for peace, I swear it's not too late"
Truer words have never been spoken. Don't kill the messenger-hear the message. You will probably be glad you did in the end.(posted 8-2008)
A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep
A time to build up, a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together
A time of love, a time of hate
A time of war, a time of peace
A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing
A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time to love, a time to hate
A time for peace, I swear it's not too late"
Truer words have never been spoken. Don't kill the messenger-hear the message. You will probably be glad you did in the end.(posted 8-2008)