Reading a book by Byron Katie called "The Work", or, Im sorry its called "Loving What is", she has 2 books, can't summarize the whole book but one thing she goes over with people is asking them
"Where would you be without this thought"
I think that simple thing could change a lot of lives. Say it to yourself once. You know what that thought is! The thought you have been thinking all day!
We as humans live a lot in the past, a lot in resentment, a lot in anger and a lot in fear. We hold a lot of grudges. And our subconcious is doing a NUMBER on us because of it. It ALWAYS starts in childhood. One small quote from mother or father or a kid from school ridiculing us making us feel unworthy, or worse, can set the train off it's tracks. But what if it isn't real. So ask yourself tonight. "WHERE WOULD I BE WITHOUT THESE THOUGHTS?"
You know what these thoughts are for you.
You can let them go. You are in control. I highly recommend her books. If you get really stuck, can you give it over to a higher power? Can you take the thoughts you don't want and put them in a red bag and give them over to God? Put them on a mantle, ask Holy Spirit or whomever you feel comfortable with to take them away? Hugs - Sara