In today's world we have more leisure time than ever to focus on achieving our individual goals. We work hard, we use all of our time and energy chasing the rainbows we have established for ourselves. These rainbows can be careers, relationships, family matters, material possessions or just about anything we set our sights on and value.
This is good. This is productive. This is healthy.
HOWEVER, sometimes we get so caught up in any one particular rainbow that we fail to see that no matter how focused we are in our pursuit, that rainbow always seem to elude us.
Frequently, this rainbow comes in the form of a relationship. Perhaps it is someone we once loved and have lost and are hoping for their return. We put all of our energy and focus into when will that love once again reach out to us, when will that love leave their current partner, when will that love come back to me? Maybe it's someone that we have been interested in for a long time but for whatever reason, we haven't been able to move from the plateau of "friends" to the higher level of "partners". We focus on what they may like or want from us, we make ourselves readily available to them and we live in a perpetual state of hope.
These are just two examples of when we need to learn the lesson of "Surrender".
Surrender does not mean that we just "give up" and move on. Surrender is synonymous with the word "Faith".
When we surrender, we are telling The Universe, ok, it's not working my way, I have FAITH that you, (The Universe), will have this situation work out to benefit my highest good, so I am going to let go of trying to control this situation and take care of myself. I am going to place this issue in your hands and pray that in your infinite wisdom, you will see fit to adjust this situation to the best possible outcome. I accept if it is not meant to be, but I have FAITH that you will choose what is best for me.
We then trust that our Higher Power, The Universe at large, will set things right for us. We move on, we let go. We accept the things that we cannot change, which may be letting go of a preferred partner. We stop waiting and wondering if our relationship with them will manifest or heal and move forward and focus on ourselves.
There is nothing wrong with being hopeful that someday things may change, but we can't focus on it. We accept that the situation is not changing to our liking and we surrender our will and stop trying to force a square peg into a round hole.
If we truly can do this, we will find much inner contentment and peace and we are no longer filled with anxiety. That sick feeling in the pit of our stomach goes away. We have peace of mind and an inner calm that no one can disrupt.
That is the "Beauty of Surrender".
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The Dating Game
Insights Into Affairs of The Heart
Authored by Brigid Bishop
Social networking sites, cell phones, texting, online chat and dating make it easier for us to access each other, but more difficult to form solid emotional bonds.
The 21st Century has life and relationships moving at a pace never before realized in earlier cultures. People are plugged in and connected on a 24/7 basis, yet, many still struggle with establishing healthy relationships.
The Dating Game provides insights into modern relationships and provides the reader with strategies for coping with dating, breaking up, affairs, divorce and codependency issues.
Find dating tips and relationship strategies that will help you build the healthy connections you want and begin making your relationships work for you.
Written with a sense of humor and true understanding of what the single person is facing today.
Copyright © 2010 by Brigid Bishop