This is an Art where we are conscious that we are attached to another person but we are detached to the personal outcome when it comes to healing them.
When we are healing, we are without ego and do it for the highest good.
We don't always know what that is, but the Higher Power does and we need to allow that energy to flow through in the energy work that we do.
As Light workers in this world, we walk around connected mentally, physically, emotionally, and or spiritually to our brothers and sisters on this planet.
When we do, we feel them and most often we care about them because we are compassionate..We may not understand all that they do and most times neither do they because many are not awakened yet as to how their thoughts, feelings, and actions impact themselves and others.
When we see behaviors like lower vibrational energy patterns that we don't perceive to be beneficial (such as self hatred, anger, greed, fear, anxiety) we wonder if we can help them to let go and aspire to new thoughts, feelings, and emotions that will move them into higher vibrational thoughts, feelings, emotions, and situations that are beneficial to themselves and the world....
Behaviors that are higher vibrational energy patterns; such as happiness, joy, laughter,, love, and peace are more beneficial to a person and to the world for it makes each person ascend to higher levels of consciousness in which they respect and value the independence of each person while knowing their is an interdependence as well..
When we are judging another persons behaviors, we also have to step back and look at ourselves and ask ourselves "what is the trigger in me?" that is causing me to respond to them without acceptance for who they are?
When we can be at peace with who they are and not feed into their negativity, then we have awakened.
Are you in a relationship with someone who is lower vibrational? Why are you upset about it? You are probably upset because their behavior patterns are not in alignment with your own.
Sometimes we are not vibrational matches to others; our thoughts, feelings, actions, and beliefs are not in alignment with each other and it can seem like they are from a whole nother planet even!.
You have two choices when this happens;you can walk away and leave the relationship or you can stay in and try to help them to heal as well as to heal yourself.
Many of us here today are Light workers; and it is in our DNA, it seems...to want to help others, to raise their level of consciousness and awareness to one in which they are doing things for themselves that are giving off higher vibrational energy patterns (love, joy, happiness, and peace) as well as doing things for those around them that are higher vibrational.
When it comes to relationships, I often find that people come to me with a desire to help the other person they feel love for who has negative patterns..
I offer a couple of options:
1. I can look at the energy of the relationship and see if their are energies that can be removed that are keeping you blocked.
2. I can teach you energy work that you would practice for 30 to 60 days and heal the relationship yourself.
3. I can take you to the karmic arena during the session and completely end the old relationship and its contracts.
For example, you may love someone naturally and they have become or is someone who is mean, aggressive, and disrespectful.
You can't stop loving them it seems (even though they are self destructive) - but you also feel inside of you the calling to help them become more aware of how their actions impact the personal world around them and the world around them in which they live.
We are attached to our soul family by cords of love and contracts - we can't help but feel for they are an integral part of the Adventure of Being Spirit in Human Form that was created so that each of you would learn to grow and become more consciously aware.
We are attached... and we love them... but can we really heal them if we are not neutral?
We have to look at their behaviors and our own responses to them.
There is a lesson for growth for both of you.
As healers, we walk a thin line and must learn to Detach from the end result when we find ourselves in relationships that call for a healing..
I bring this up again, because when it comes to relationships each person has their own free will.
When we heal someone we personally love, we have to come from our heart chakra; respecting that if we offer a healing - it does not necessarily mean that they will grow closer to us.
It has to be that way, to be attached as brothers and sisters on this planet, and to be detached as to the outcome because they may choose not to heal (raise their vibration to one of peace, love, and happiness) and reject.changing based on their free will.
It may be part of their energy pattern to stay at the level they are or they may need to move back a step or two.
Let's say that you are married and your spouse is drunken and abusive, I may suggest that you practice a healing prayer energy work with them.
Many people will ask - does it mean they will come back to me - does it mean that they will change the way I want them to?
I find most often, that the healing brings forth new opportunities based on each persons level of soul growth and you have to be detached to allow that to happen.
You can't do the prayer energy work with the expectation that you will benefit, you have to do it for both yours and theirs highest good with detachment.
Both of you are in this together and we're brought together for healing; for a true healer is healed with each healing they give...
What you do to another you do to yourself... it is physics in action on the energetic plane.
Sometimes the highest good is seperation and sometimes the highest good is a new bonding with new potential, but either way it is done for the best of all involved.
If you are able to disconnect from the outcome and love regardless and allow the Higher Power to work the miracles then you allow the best to manifest - for all.
Sometimes, all we can do is imagine then smiling and happy and allow them to choose to.
Sometimes that can be scary as a healer, to give up ego and personal feelings but that is a path that I have found personally allows for your soul to move forward into higher vibratational levels and greater depths of personal healing...
One must trust though that Source does move through and your healing is exactly what is needed at that time.
As you heal them, you will have decisions to make for you will be healing yourself as well and looking at behaviors in yourself that are triggered when they are around..
You will experience growths and changes in your own feelings and beliefs and so will they.
The two types of prayers that I suggest are either
The Light of God Prayer from Unity Church
The light of God Surrounds "xxx"
The love of God Enfolds "xxx"
The power of God Protects "xxx"
The presence of God Watched Over "xxx"
Where ever "xxx" is God Is.
When I say this one I focus on the other person and allow Gods Light to Flow through and do what it needs to do.
Then there is the ho'oponopono
Which is
I am Sorry
Please Forgive Me
Thank you
I love you
When I do this one, I look inside of myself - as an empath - and I find where it hurts when I connect with them - where within my energy body I feel either the mental, physical, emotional, or spiritual pain. And then, I say the prayer.
I don't do either of them saying this will make "x" happen... I say it detached and connected to Source and allow the Best to Manifest.
I say either one for about 5 minutes a day.
If you want to completely end the relationship and end the contract - then we can do a session in which we read the contract and then go into the karmic arena and make an official ending to the relationship which ends old behaviors and patterns and gives way for new ones to blossom.
Sending you Laughter, Love, Light, and Divine Blessings Bright
Psychic Healer
Bonnie Jean