My name is Nicole and I am a natural born Spiritual Intuitive who specializes in love, relationships, and healing from various forms of abuse. The purpose of this article is to share my experiences with infidelity from a psychic's point of view so that you can make the best possible choices for your life. To be clear, this article is not a value judgement. People fall in love, and sometimes we fall in love with those who are already in a committed relationship. Of course, all men and women are not the same, but when it comes to affairs I have found a similar pattern that seems to cover people of many different ages, races, and socioeconomic backgrounds. While I am sharing my experiences with heterosexual clients much of this also applies to married men who are secretly gay. That being said, there are exceptions to every rule. So, take what resonates, arm yourself with knowledge, and go out and rock your life! Over the years I have given readings to many female clients who are involved with married men. Some of the women openly admit that the chances of divorce are slim to none, but there are also clients who truly believe the man will end his marriage and begin a new life with them. In all of my years as a spiritual intuitive I rarely witness men leaving their wives for the mistress . In most cases the man will discuss divorce, lament about his unhappy marriage, but ultimately choose to stay married because it provides a certain amount of emotional comfort, approval from society, and financial security. In most cases the men want a wife at home to keep up appearances and a mistress to unload their problems on and live out their fantasies with. Having an affair provides an escape from daily life, and that can exhilarating, intoxicating, and addictive. That being said, it does not mean that he does not care for the woman he is having an affair with. In many instances the men do have genuine feelings for the mistress, but do not take the necessary steps to build a solid relationship with her. Part of the passion stems from the secrecy of the affair and the ability to forget one's responsibilities and obligations for the moment. That elicits a certain amount of excitement. I have often found, once the mistress desires more of a commitment the excitement quickly wears off, and the man will begin to pull away OR insist that he will file for divorce when the time is right. More often than not, he never does get that divorce, and in some cases it is the wife who ends up leaving him. So, if you are in love with a married man what do you do?
How do you cope? How do you live? Typically speaking, I have found that peace begins by accepting WHAT IS. In order to do that you need to know where he stands. Does he want a committed partnership with only you? Does he want to stay married and still see you? It's very important to pick a time and ask him the above mentioned questions. If he becomes evasive or tries to change the subject you have your answer: He is not going to leave his wife. If he promises to leave his wife, but you see no movement, changes, or paper work outlining the divorce chances are he will stay married. At that point it is important to ask yourself what you want. If you want a loving committed partnership with one person you will have to let him go.
Holding on prevents relationship minded men from finding you because you are involved with a man who cannot sustain a committed relationship with one person. As tough as relationships may be I have found that if you love once, you will love again. In many cases this may require you to take 3 months to a year and date yourself. Fall so deeply in love with yourself that you adore your own company. It may sound odd, but I have found that it works. Clients who do this emerge with a better understanding of who they are and what they want. They also find that the loneliness and deep need for a relationship is gone. Their time is filled with friends, dance classes, and meditation groups. Some begin to write books, articles, or even tap into their abilities and give intuitive readings. Then, in the process of living life the right person actually appears, and they walk in step with each other. Life is not always easy, and there can be complications and heartache, but if you hold out for what you truly deserve you just might get it. ALWAYS, NICOLE
