When someone is hurtful, they may not mean anything by it. We've all been that person just trying to survive. Maybe we have lashed out in anger, during a period of stress. Maybe we selfishly stole donuts at the office because we forgot our lunch. *ahem*
But when someone deliberately hurts you for no reason other than to make you feel bad so they can feel good...Ouch! Especially when they know just how it feels.
Picture this: a guy goes on and on about how his ex-wife cheated on him and broke his heart. Or a woman tell her new boyfriend how her ex left her in dead of night, never to return, leaving her waiting forlornly for years.
Then they turn around and do it to you.
Maybe you looked at them funny. Sometimes it's something that silly that sets people off. Maybe they felt the two of you were getting too close. Maybe they had a bad day and wanted to put you down to feel better about themselves.
Whatever the reason, know that when someone goes out of their way to hurt you they are doing it because they are not feeling good about themselves. When someone deliberately hurts you for no reason, it is to make up for a lack within. Knowing this, it is easier not to take it so personally, even if that person knows just how it feels to be hurt in the way they've just hurt you.
Empathy takes time to develope. All of us have trouble with it from time to time, because it requires that we let go of our ego and see people as equals. That can be tough when you don't like someone, or are mad at them! If someone is cheating on you or leading you on, and they've had it done to them, they just haven't learned the empathy yet. They still don't believe in it, they are stuck in a cycle where pain becomes the only pleasure. Like flower buds that refuse to open, they believe in a life without sunshine because they just don't believe that sunlight will do them good.
The best thing to do is recognize that YOU have the capacity for joy, that you are an eternal being that came to earth to create amazing experiences, and that no one can take this from you. If someone is mistreating you, walk away. When you love someone, sometimes you have to let yourself go, because you can only love someone as much as you love yourself.
If you are having trouble letting go, you could try one of my healings by clicking on the payment mail button to the right. It is 3.25 for a little remote session. You can also meditate yourself and imagine your guides cutting the cords between the two of you. In this way, it can make it easier to detach from any painful, lingering energy that has built up between you.
Bright Light, Magick, Vitality, Peace of Mind to you,
Maji
But when someone deliberately hurts you for no reason other than to make you feel bad so they can feel good...Ouch! Especially when they know just how it feels.
Picture this: a guy goes on and on about how his ex-wife cheated on him and broke his heart. Or a woman tell her new boyfriend how her ex left her in dead of night, never to return, leaving her waiting forlornly for years.
Then they turn around and do it to you.
Maybe you looked at them funny. Sometimes it's something that silly that sets people off. Maybe they felt the two of you were getting too close. Maybe they had a bad day and wanted to put you down to feel better about themselves.
Whatever the reason, know that when someone goes out of their way to hurt you they are doing it because they are not feeling good about themselves. When someone deliberately hurts you for no reason, it is to make up for a lack within. Knowing this, it is easier not to take it so personally, even if that person knows just how it feels to be hurt in the way they've just hurt you.
Empathy takes time to develope. All of us have trouble with it from time to time, because it requires that we let go of our ego and see people as equals. That can be tough when you don't like someone, or are mad at them! If someone is cheating on you or leading you on, and they've had it done to them, they just haven't learned the empathy yet. They still don't believe in it, they are stuck in a cycle where pain becomes the only pleasure. Like flower buds that refuse to open, they believe in a life without sunshine because they just don't believe that sunlight will do them good.
The best thing to do is recognize that YOU have the capacity for joy, that you are an eternal being that came to earth to create amazing experiences, and that no one can take this from you. If someone is mistreating you, walk away. When you love someone, sometimes you have to let yourself go, because you can only love someone as much as you love yourself.
If you are having trouble letting go, you could try one of my healings by clicking on the payment mail button to the right. It is 3.25 for a little remote session. You can also meditate yourself and imagine your guides cutting the cords between the two of you. In this way, it can make it easier to detach from any painful, lingering energy that has built up between you.
Bright Light, Magick, Vitality, Peace of Mind to you,
Maji