Relationships are by no means an easy street to go down. There are times when the terrain is rough, confusing and you will be damned if you can navigate your way 50ft much less to the altar.
I have done readings for clients world-wide since early 2001 and during this time I can assure you that every possible question and every possible scenario has been brought before me. For this reason I wanted to compile a few ‘Relationship FAQ’s ‘to help those of you who are not quite ready to throw in the towel but just as apt to avert the intersection of Hopeless & Lonely.
1. Does he/she love me?
Let me be quick frank (and if you’ve read with me before you know that it’s a role I relish) and say this: if you have to ask, you already know the answer; you likely are just ignoring the obvious. Relationships are confusing, yes; I conceded that at the start of this article. They are not, however, delusional; at least they are not supposed to be. If you are confused by the lack of symmetry between their words and their actions remember that actions ALWAYS speak louder to words. A man (or woman) who loves you will leave you no doubt of this.
2. He said that he loves me but he can’t be with me!
There are a few select exceptions to this rule (and the chances that you are one of them are slim, please keep this in mind) but generally if they have said this they are more in love with avoiding confrontation than they are with you. Ask yourself this: if you loved someone would you voluntarily walk away from them barred any physical or emotional threat? If you would not just skip away from someone you loved because of personal issues (issues that arguably you should be working through together if in fact adult love is present) then neither would they.
3. What are his intentions? Does he want a relationship with me? Am I just a FB (look it up)?
This is a dubious set of questions indeed! Hardly so because of their supposed complexities but more so because it highlights that a key component of any healthy adult relationship is missing: COMMUNICATION! Those who come to me asking ME what they should be asking their BELOVED will be quickly reminded of this. If you are holding back asking because you are afraid they will tell you no (better now than later, remember!) or that they will leave you (don’t let the door hit them on the way out, I say!) I gleam from this the issue is not what they want but your own personal insecurity that you would silence your voice (EMPOWERMENT!) so as not to lose what might not be worth holding on to! If you want a relationship with someone then you must establish a strong sense of communication where each of you is free to express how you feel in a safe and secure environment. I can always help to clue you into their intentions but using me as a scapegoat to avoid building communication with them is never going to work in the long run.
4. Will we get married?
This question chaps the rear of many readers not because we do not understand the curiosity, anyone would, but because it’s a question bred out of misinformation and charlatanism. The fact that I do not go all Ms. Cleo on you when you come into a reading may surprise or even disappointment many of you but the fact is real readings give you real answers. Asking if you will marry someone that you have barely been dating for a year is tantamount to asking someone to lie to you in exchange for a good rating and a soon to be dependence upon their readings. The majority of life is not predetermined, ergo lest marriage is already on their brain and something they are considering asking it’s not likely to be something that we can provide a genuine answer on. If you have been dating longer than a year and are still curious whether they see this going further then please refer to question 3.
5. Why does he go MIA, incommunicado or generally run in the other direction should I try to have a real conversation with him/her?
The answer resides first in understanding this: men love the same as women love, P E R I O D!
The same phases of love (novelty, obsession, constant attention etc.) that women go through when they are in romantic love are the same for men. If they cannot seem to be bothered to be present in your life except for when they need something than this is a very strong clue to their intentions and thus the answer to this particular question. Now if you are looking for them to be in contact 887 times throughout the day or get upset because after a long day’s work they do not feel like talking feelings then it’s possible there is another answer to this all together but generally speaking someone who is into you is not going to shove you to the side and treat you like a pariah until they have a need they want you to meet. If you need further information on this topic, a specialty of mine, please check out my article on Back & Forth Lovers.
Now as you might have guessed this article is far from complete but I think this gives you a good starting point. Readers& other psychics out there, what are questions you feel should be added? What do certain questions signal to you when it comes to helping others understand the path to wholeness? Those who would be clients what questions do you feel were unfairly included in this? I look forward to hearing from you!
