Teeter Totter? The Balancing Act

Life a See-Saw?  The Balancing Act

Did you ever notice that whenever things are running smoothly in one area of your life, they seem to go way out of whack in another?

Like, you’re doing great with your career but you’re in a dating slump.  Or, your career and romantic relationship are doing just great, but you start having problems with your landlord.

It never fails.

It’s life.

Things are good in one area and then KAPOW! Things go to hell in another.

What to do?  What to do?  What can you do but work through it, as I often tell my regulars, “The only way out, is through”.

Take comfort in those things that are “in balance” and going well for you while they are and use them to give you the emotional and personal support you may require to handle your current challenges.

One of the mistakes many of us make (myself included), is to allow the negative or challenging situations that arise to infect those areas of your life that may actually be presently in balance, creating chaos in every area of your life.

For instance, your career and relationship are stable, and you start to have problems with one of your children.  Rather than allowing the pressure from the parenting issues to infect or infest your career or your relationship with your significant other, focus on your career, if you can, while you are at work, if you cannot, try to get some time off, FMLA was created for a reason you know?  Use your significant other for support during a trying time, ask them to be your “coparent” while you are dealing with this particular issue, rather than allowing the stress to make you short-tempered or impatient with your significant other.  Remember, to let your feelings flow, if you hold it in, no one will understand the difference in your temperament, and no one can help you out if they don’t know what is wrong.

When life goes out of balance, don’t start shifting and squirming throwing it completely off-kilter, stay square in your shoes and face your current challenge or obstacle head-on, don’t confuse your issues, or create new ones, take them square by the shoulders and set the boundaries that they occur within, it will help you to stay sane and it will help you to resolve your current difficulties sooner, more effectively and give you inner stability.

Tough Love in the Garden of Eden