Has your loved one broken your trust, or vice versa? It is very painful when your spouse or lover isn't as committed as you are, especially when you first find out! Whether you find out through an email, text, phone call, written note or "walk-in" it is an experience that makes it feel as if they've driven a harpoon straight through your heart. Shattered, you leave the relationship. In this case time is your dearest friend and greatest healer, and once the dust clears it is likely you'll start thinking about this person again and wonder what went wrong to make him or her cheat.
There are many schools of thought regarding fixing broken relationships, and rebuilding trust in them. Many will say that once someone cheats, he or she will ultimately do it again. Most relationship coaches advise that once trust has been broken, it can't be restored. It is likely you've heard of the "no-contact" rule. In this case, the person who used to be your companion is treated like an addictive drug such as tobacco or alcohol. The no-contact rule is, basically, "cold-turkey." In many cases it is wise to not get involved with this person again, but then again there are also those cases where this painful experience actually strengthens the relationship. Admittedly, the latter case is rare, but I have known couples who survived the "cheat" and continued their relationship for many years or even the rest of their lives.
However, no matter how much you and your partner love each other, trust is vital in order for the relationship to survive and thrive. If you and your partner decide to get back together, rebuilding trust is going to be very difficult. Problems will arise if you constantly snoop on your partner, or if he or she snoops on you. Only 5 or 10% of relationships where trust has been broken, survive the first 6 months after reunion. For this reason, relationship coaches advise that it's best to let go of the partner and rebuild your life without him or her.
How can you trust this person again? For starters, you need to trust your own feelings and see if they are realistic concerning the relationship. If you feel uncomfortable every time he glances at another person or picks up her cell phone and looks like she is texting someone, then you are not trusting him or her. Those feelings may be justified, but the mistrust will eventually destroy the relationship. The only way to rebuild trust is act as if the cheat never happened. Difficult, yes, but if you and your partner can let go of the cheat and never do it again, established commitment is possible. If you and your partner truly love each other, it is possible. It takes a lot of work -- and if you are the one who has to do all of the work then it's best to re-evaluate the wisdom of getting back together. Relationships are a partnership! One person cannot carry all of the responsibility.
With this in mind, how do you know for sure if it's the right thing to do? An accurate and qualified psychic can give the clarity you need to see if staying with this person is the right thing to do. It is hard to be objective when your heart is literally fighting with your head! If this person has cheated more than once then it's definitely time to move on. In most cases even one cheat is a sign it's time to move on! However, there's still the rare cases when it's worth it to give that person one more chance. Trust is the most important item in the recipe of love! Can you trust him or her again? If so, then chances are good that you will stick together to make your relationship work.
I am available to help you with all of your relationship questions and concerns. I can give an objective eye and help you see clearly. Let's chat and see how things will work out!
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I am available till late tonight!
Have a blessed day!
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There are many schools of thought regarding fixing broken relationships, and rebuilding trust in them. Many will say that once someone cheats, he or she will ultimately do it again. Most relationship coaches advise that once trust has been broken, it can't be restored. It is likely you've heard of the "no-contact" rule. In this case, the person who used to be your companion is treated like an addictive drug such as tobacco or alcohol. The no-contact rule is, basically, "cold-turkey." In many cases it is wise to not get involved with this person again, but then again there are also those cases where this painful experience actually strengthens the relationship. Admittedly, the latter case is rare, but I have known couples who survived the "cheat" and continued their relationship for many years or even the rest of their lives.
However, no matter how much you and your partner love each other, trust is vital in order for the relationship to survive and thrive. If you and your partner decide to get back together, rebuilding trust is going to be very difficult. Problems will arise if you constantly snoop on your partner, or if he or she snoops on you. Only 5 or 10% of relationships where trust has been broken, survive the first 6 months after reunion. For this reason, relationship coaches advise that it's best to let go of the partner and rebuild your life without him or her.
How can you trust this person again? For starters, you need to trust your own feelings and see if they are realistic concerning the relationship. If you feel uncomfortable every time he glances at another person or picks up her cell phone and looks like she is texting someone, then you are not trusting him or her. Those feelings may be justified, but the mistrust will eventually destroy the relationship. The only way to rebuild trust is act as if the cheat never happened. Difficult, yes, but if you and your partner can let go of the cheat and never do it again, established commitment is possible. If you and your partner truly love each other, it is possible. It takes a lot of work -- and if you are the one who has to do all of the work then it's best to re-evaluate the wisdom of getting back together. Relationships are a partnership! One person cannot carry all of the responsibility.
With this in mind, how do you know for sure if it's the right thing to do? An accurate and qualified psychic can give the clarity you need to see if staying with this person is the right thing to do. It is hard to be objective when your heart is literally fighting with your head! If this person has cheated more than once then it's definitely time to move on. In most cases even one cheat is a sign it's time to move on! However, there's still the rare cases when it's worth it to give that person one more chance. Trust is the most important item in the recipe of love! Can you trust him or her again? If so, then chances are good that you will stick together to make your relationship work.
I am available to help you with all of your relationship questions and concerns. I can give an objective eye and help you see clearly. Let's chat and see how things will work out!
I am available till late tonight!
Have a blessed day!
Penney