A very powerful tool that my Master taught me in achieving peace in your life, is building a relationship with your inner child. If you develop a regular habit in using the following exercise, I think you will find that your life will not only become more peaceful and happier, but you will find that you can attract more of the things that you want out of life naturally, without even trying.
This is a very simple exercise that I would recommend that you do first thing in the morning because your awake mind will be closer to the dream state than later in the day, and it is a great way to start off your morning. I would suggest doing it after meditation, if you have a set routine.
First, have a paper and pen ready. Hold the pen in the hand you usually write with. Begin by asking "How are you doing?" or "How are you feeling?" Then, if you are right handed, switch the pen to your left hand. If you are left handed, switch the pen to your right. Focus on allowing the voice of your inner child to come through to your hand, through the pen and to the paper. Allow your opposite hand be the voice of your inner child. Then, write whatever comes to your mind with no editing or censoring. That is very important as your inner child has been censored and edited for its entire life! This begins your communication and the start of a new relationship. When the writing stops, do not judge what your child had to say. Instead, offer words of comfort. Do not explain yourself or argue, and do not intellectualize. After all of these years of not being heard, your inner child needs to be loved, listened to and understood. So offer words of comfort, understanding and compassion.
Next you should ask out loud what your inner child needs. Allow the pen to write what it wishes. It is easy to discern when it is your inner child's writing because the writing will be simple, short sentences that are to the point. Like any small child, they will always tell you what they want and how they are feeling in any given moment.
Next, we move into negotiation. If you prefer to write back to your inner child with your natural writing hand and switch back and forth during the conversation, that works. It is also acceptable to speak out loud. Whatever feels right for you.
After so many years of being ignored, your inner child may be extremely unreasonable, wanting to make up for years of neglect, abuse, suppression and feeling unloved. Don't be surprised if he or she wants to eat candy all day or not go to work so you can play instead, etc. Developing your new and healthy relationship, you may have to compromise and bargan alot more at first, but this will let up as time passes. It is expected that you will be doing activities that you enjoyed as a young child, as there may have been moments where you weren't allowed to do them as much as you liked, or perhaps not at all! Eventually, your inner child will begin to enjoy more adult activities and spend time in your world doing what you like.
If you're like a lot of us, at one point we need to commit to becoming the parent for ourselves and heal what happened to us when we were young. The greatest part about that is, its your big chance to become the parent you've always wanted and deserved! Its very important to remember to be tolerant, compassionate, patient and loving during this process. Most of all, enjoy beginning this new start to your relationship and make it into an adventure! Also, always keep your word. As a rule of thumb, you're only as good as your word, and if you break your word with your inner child, you've moved ten steps back.
Because it is your inner child that sabotages your plans, puts a wrench in your progress, prevents you from being productive, the value of recreating this relationship goes without saying. With a healed and happy inner child in tow, this may very well be the key to your happiness.
Good luck and have fun!
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This is a very simple exercise that I would recommend that you do first thing in the morning because your awake mind will be closer to the dream state than later in the day, and it is a great way to start off your morning. I would suggest doing it after meditation, if you have a set routine.
First, have a paper and pen ready. Hold the pen in the hand you usually write with. Begin by asking "How are you doing?" or "How are you feeling?" Then, if you are right handed, switch the pen to your left hand. If you are left handed, switch the pen to your right. Focus on allowing the voice of your inner child to come through to your hand, through the pen and to the paper. Allow your opposite hand be the voice of your inner child. Then, write whatever comes to your mind with no editing or censoring. That is very important as your inner child has been censored and edited for its entire life! This begins your communication and the start of a new relationship. When the writing stops, do not judge what your child had to say. Instead, offer words of comfort. Do not explain yourself or argue, and do not intellectualize. After all of these years of not being heard, your inner child needs to be loved, listened to and understood. So offer words of comfort, understanding and compassion.
Next you should ask out loud what your inner child needs. Allow the pen to write what it wishes. It is easy to discern when it is your inner child's writing because the writing will be simple, short sentences that are to the point. Like any small child, they will always tell you what they want and how they are feeling in any given moment.
Next, we move into negotiation. If you prefer to write back to your inner child with your natural writing hand and switch back and forth during the conversation, that works. It is also acceptable to speak out loud. Whatever feels right for you.
After so many years of being ignored, your inner child may be extremely unreasonable, wanting to make up for years of neglect, abuse, suppression and feeling unloved. Don't be surprised if he or she wants to eat candy all day or not go to work so you can play instead, etc. Developing your new and healthy relationship, you may have to compromise and bargan alot more at first, but this will let up as time passes. It is expected that you will be doing activities that you enjoyed as a young child, as there may have been moments where you weren't allowed to do them as much as you liked, or perhaps not at all! Eventually, your inner child will begin to enjoy more adult activities and spend time in your world doing what you like.
If you're like a lot of us, at one point we need to commit to becoming the parent for ourselves and heal what happened to us when we were young. The greatest part about that is, its your big chance to become the parent you've always wanted and deserved! Its very important to remember to be tolerant, compassionate, patient and loving during this process. Most of all, enjoy beginning this new start to your relationship and make it into an adventure! Also, always keep your word. As a rule of thumb, you're only as good as your word, and if you break your word with your inner child, you've moved ten steps back.
Because it is your inner child that sabotages your plans, puts a wrench in your progress, prevents you from being productive, the value of recreating this relationship goes without saying. With a healed and happy inner child in tow, this may very well be the key to your happiness.
Good luck and have fun!