MY MOTHER TOLD ME THIS WHEN I WAS IN MY TEENS.
BOY WAS SHE RIGHT!!!
There can be many times in our lives when we feel we are getting mixed signals from a man, Generally this is because sometimes he may disappear and not contact us for a couple of days, (or sometimes weeks) there is always some excuse, and we really want to believe that he wants to be there so we choose to allow this behavior to continue,
This can go on for sometimes months (or years) before we do something about it, this can happen in a number of ways, we will either tell him the relationship is ended, or we demand that he gives you more of his time, this ultimately ends in one way, he walks out of the door and never comes back, because he doesn’t have the opportunity to just come and go as he pleases anymore, and that’s just the way he likes it. How many times have we done this, and we all have, The belief that his excuses are the truth and that he will one day “Change” and be there as much as you want him to be. One of the things you have to realize is that if a man truly wants to be there with you he will make every effort to do that, he will at least want to have some contact with you, be it a phone call or a text message to let you know he is thinking of you.The signal you should be getting from a guy like this is “WALK AWAY” stop fooling yourself, you are being disrespected, he expects you to be there for him whenever he needs you, but your needs in this are not being taken into account.
You can’t change his actions, but you can change YOURS, you can NOT be as readily available to him, You can tell him sorry, maybe next time, let him think there are other interests in your life apart from him, don’t give him100%, and if that doesn’t work then you have to realize you are not as important as you should be in his life, and its time to open your eyes and find someone who will be there for you, and value you in his life, as you value him. That’s happiness, and you will realize that what you have been experiencing is Pure Misery, its really NOT WORTH IT. You can change yourself, and get the Good man you deserve, Respect Yourself, and others will follow suite and Respect You. It will probably hurt for a while when you let him go, but you are hurting anyway, so why not let him go and let yourself heal???
BOY WAS SHE RIGHT!!!
There can be many times in our lives when we feel we are getting mixed signals from a man, Generally this is because sometimes he may disappear and not contact us for a couple of days, (or sometimes weeks) there is always some excuse, and we really want to believe that he wants to be there so we choose to allow this behavior to continue,
This can go on for sometimes months (or years) before we do something about it, this can happen in a number of ways, we will either tell him the relationship is ended, or we demand that he gives you more of his time, this ultimately ends in one way, he walks out of the door and never comes back, because he doesn’t have the opportunity to just come and go as he pleases anymore, and that’s just the way he likes it. How many times have we done this, and we all have, The belief that his excuses are the truth and that he will one day “Change” and be there as much as you want him to be. One of the things you have to realize is that if a man truly wants to be there with you he will make every effort to do that, he will at least want to have some contact with you, be it a phone call or a text message to let you know he is thinking of you.The signal you should be getting from a guy like this is “WALK AWAY” stop fooling yourself, you are being disrespected, he expects you to be there for him whenever he needs you, but your needs in this are not being taken into account.
You can’t change his actions, but you can change YOURS, you can NOT be as readily available to him, You can tell him sorry, maybe next time, let him think there are other interests in your life apart from him, don’t give him100%, and if that doesn’t work then you have to realize you are not as important as you should be in his life, and its time to open your eyes and find someone who will be there for you, and value you in his life, as you value him. That’s happiness, and you will realize that what you have been experiencing is Pure Misery, its really NOT WORTH IT. You can change yourself, and get the Good man you deserve, Respect Yourself, and others will follow suite and Respect You. It will probably hurt for a while when you let him go, but you are hurting anyway, so why not let him go and let yourself heal???