There are few things that get under the skin of your reader more than hearing
the phrase “well this reader said…” and its various iterations. It’s not that
we do not like competition—I tend to view our field much as that of nursing.
Just as there will always be someone who is sick and needs tending there will
always be clients who are confused about life and love and need a reading to
gain deeper insight. There is a common purpose that we readers all strive and
work towards. The issue is that when that phrase has been uttered it reveals
far more than perhaps was intended. It tells us that chances are you have been
to a psychic or ten and have likely gotten mixed up with a few people who would
sooner tell you a bold face lie and take your beauteous rating than risk a bad
comment by telling you the truth.
So
let’s first explain what a psychic surfer is and how riding this wave can
severally impede your receiving a genuine reading with true guidance.
A Psychic surfer is one who goes to reader and reader, usually when they are
frenetic about something, getting read after read. Sometimes this person will
speak to as many as 10 readers in a single day!
Why is this a problem?
As someone who prides herself on being unequivocally honest it’s very
frustrating when I have to re-do what another reader has done. Unfortunately
there are many who will tell clients ANYTHING they want to hear in
return for their continued patronage and glowing rating. I'm not one of these
people. I will tell you without hesitation what I see, as it is, without rounding
the edges of my language. I do not seek
to hurt you but I am not afraid to offend you. Since NO ONE can make
informed and healthy decisions based upon lies it does not serve you to hear
anything but the truth, even if it’s a hard truth to take.
Sometimes a client start with a reading and are told something undesirable.
Then they travel on to another reader in hopes of hearing something different
(many will claim it’s to "confirm" what the other said). This in and
of itself is B.S. since it’s the pattern of frenetic behavior which creates
monsters out of even the more genuine of readers.
I try to help clients see the truth, especially if other readers have blatantly
lied (or so I suspect!) to them and empower them with prediction and guidance
on what to do next. Since readers such as me are in the minority I end up
having to defend what I see. I am hit with a barrage of "well this reader
said...." which makes my palms sweat! I would advise, NEVER to go into a
reading saying that as it should be understood that another person’s read has
no bearing upon the read you are about to receive. Typically when I hear this I
know that this person is either 1) a Psychic surfer or 2) only looking to have
me confirm another readers reading, which I won’t do, lest of course their
prediction is accurate.
Why do people become Psychic junkies? Well I'm sure the reasons vary but
typically they are hungry for information. They are in the throes of some sort
of devastation and need insight. They look for those within their price range
and just start going down the line. Sometimes they get all they need right away
and thus they do not feel the need to look further but typically they will go
to one reader after another in their quest for information and to also get
certain things confirmed or denied.
As readers we have to watch out. If you happen to be honest and tell a client
that unfortunately what they were told previously is not true (and since you
don't know whether it was and freewill just happened to shift you NEVER accuse
the previous reader of lying directly) you do risk a potentially scathing
rating. While that doesn't personally bother me it can be quite troublesome to
someone’s business. Clients should remember that addiction comes in many
forms and a reader is not responsible for enabling or sustaining your addiction
to psychic or intuitive advice.
I would always recommend to a client who finds themselves in this situation....DO
NOT rate a reader based upon how their read matched to another (or
sometimes SEVERAL others) rather rate on the reading you received. Did
they know what they were talking about? Did they give you proper background and
insight on the personalities involved? Was it just that their read happened to
counter another you received or were they generally off across the board?
Be mindful of how you are rating and why. If they were horrible, they were
horrible, fine. But if you are rating poorly because you didn't like what you
heard and/or it didn't match what another reader told you then shame on you.
If you find yourself, as a reader, on the receiving end of someone like this,
be patient. Chances are they need your guidance now more than ever! Try to help
them see what is really going on around them since the truth typically is
always available to us if we choose to see it. Be patient if suddenly you are
hit with "but this reader said....." and explain that another readers
predictions have nothing to do with your reading and that you would love the
chance to clear some things up if they are willing to listen and be guided
properly.
If you are a client, stuck in the throes of emotion and find you going from
reader to reader, STOP!!! Not only do you take the chance of receiving a
reading from someone less experienced with reading energy and thus an
inaccurate reading but you also are going to spend TEN TIMESTHE
MONEY that you could just pool together to see a more experienced
Psychic and receive a reading which is accurate, empowering and that allows
for your evolution.
Emotion gets the best of us. I cannot imagine that there is anyone out there
who has never found themselves in the bell jar over one thing or another at
some point in their life. That is why many of us are doing the work that we do;
because we desire to help those who feel lost and upset. But there is such a
thing as too much of a good thing. I advise clients to find 1-3 TRUSTED readers
that they see regularly. Make sure that they are experienced so that you are
not getting a reading based on their merely picking up on another psychics
energy (and thus their read). Build a relationship with these readers as it
helps to aid the flow of energy between you and thus results in a more in depth
and accurate reading. It’s fine to try someone else who catches your eye here
and there (especially if you find that your regular reader is not connecting
with you as he/she once did) but do not make this a habit, especially one you
make when in the depths of emotional madness. Readings should not just be about
prediction spewing—they should be a marriage between reading and
counseling/coaching so that once you know what is ahead you also know how to
navigate your way through it. Unless your reader is providing you with both of
these your readings are superficial at best.
We all want to help, even those who may not have a Psychic bone in their
bodies. Sometimes we have to be a bit more discerning and less interested in
hearing only what we want to hear. If that was all we were told how on Earth
would be make informed decisions? We would all be stuck in outdated situations
which no longer fit us. Truth, even when it hurts, is the greatest tool to have
in our arsenal. It can mean the difference between months of frenetically
holding on to a situation and healing and moving forward to the next great thing!
Even if you find a situation turning in a direction you hoped to avoid allow
healing to take root and open yourself to and invite in what the Universe has
in store. Though the need for control & for information can drive us during
difficult times you do yourself a great disservice by not surrendering and
letting things organically develop. Get a reading to help empower and guide;
not as a means of taking yourself off the ledge.