Remember the cliché, “Necessity is the mother of invention”? Well it is true, and what is also true is that “Necessity is the also mother of reinvention.” It is not a one time thing. When I am speaking to clients who are feeling lost or are not sure how to bring new things into their lives,I remind them they can start over at anytime. There are always examples of people who have done just that. If you need to talk about it connect with me tonight!! Special Rate $1.69
When I left my childhood behind I reinvented myself at least twice in the first 5 years. I went from a party girl to being an active member of my church, one who went to school, did not smoke, drink or sleep around. I graduated with my own class. Then when I left my foster home, I had to reinvent myself again, and choose a life for myself. Reinvention is the premise that allows people to find a new way of living when it is necessary. When you go through a break up, or a death, or some other life altering event remember you can change your life.
The first thing needed is honesty. Not necessarily with others, but with yourself. You need to face your life. At 33, I was drinking non-stop. My friends were buying houses, settling down with a partner and developing a career. I had a hard time doing those things. I could not stop drinking no matter what I tried. I had to find a way to change my life. I was definitely at a bottom. It wasn’t until I was willing to put down the alcohol, and reinvent my life that I was able to start growing up, and moving forward.
I am at another part of my life. My son is 2 years away from being 18, my husband is gone now, and I have to reinvent this part of my life. One of the first parts of that is I finished my college degree. I am at the gym 5 days a week these days, and still regularly attend my meetings. I socialize, more and am learning to do new things. When you are in a place that feels as if life is unfair and against you, remember that feelings are not facts. You can reinvent yourself and your life at any time. I am a testament to a human’s ability to change and embrace new experiences. So remember when you feel as if it is dark, and you can’t see a way out, remember you can always reinvent yourself. Even if it seems the progress is slow, just keep doing it, and soon you will notice that life is getting brighter.
