Online dating!! There are sites for Christians, over 55, African American sites, Lesbian and Gay sites, educated singles over 25 sites, and single parent sites. There is even a one for "people who are married trying to hook up with other people" site. I could go on, but you get my drift. Since until recently I have not been a big fan of online dating. I am still not a fan, but have come to realize in this home based tech world it has its place. I have gotten hooked recently on this show called Catfish on MTV.
The show was developed by a young man who fell in love online, only to find out his love was a much older woman who was nothing like she portrayed herself. So a reality show was born. Each week an unsuspecting person is in love with someone they have never met, but talked to, emailed, Tweeted, Facebooked and Instagramed on a regular basis, for a long period of time
Catfish is based on the idea of helping people who want to learn about the person they are involved with online. The subjects trying to find their online love, are afraid the person is not who they say they are. Of course on Catfish they are right. He discovers the woman he loves, and believes is a model, is really 400 hundred pounds, timid and afraid of being rejected. She discovers the guy with the 6 pack abs is really an overweight, twice divorced father of 4 living with his mom.
From the beginning this was my concern how do you know who you are dating? You can borrow pics, set up fake Facebook pages and generally put a whole new persona up. The internet allows for mass deception. When people first started dating online, many were disappointed for that reasons and many others. There are men and women who love the multiple friendships/romances that are content having it all through the phone, online and through social media. So persons looking for more are disappointed when the man they love has 4 other dating relationships that he never intends on changing. Even though he has told them he loved them and even talked marriage. I have noticed a new trend after all the dating around, experimenting, and people are actually finding love online. I think it is like anything new it needs to find its place.
The only thing I would advise, is to know who you are dealing with and what you want. So when you run into those not ready you can move on. My husband used to say dating is like trying on people to see how they fit. You commit to a marriage, not necessarily someone you are dating. Karmic relationships stir the agape love in you, but don’t necessarily make good mates in this life time. So you get to make choices that work for your life.