When your partner withholds emotional intimacy from you, it can be very easy to see it as the classic fight or flight paradigm. However, it is often times
that what really needs to be examined is your own emotional connection with yourself.
While challenge can be a motivating factor to encourage self growth it can also be pathological when taking to the extreme, especially when a person does
not examine the internal challenge that allowed the external challenge to occur in the dynamic in the first place.
If you find yourself continually involved in emotional situations in which your partner (or the object of your affection) seems grievously unattainable, there
is something operating within your destiny path that you are unwilling to examine. This sort of deflection is rarely beneficial. For it is much easier to
change your core desires that to change that of another person, no matter how hard you try.
Looking very deeply, you may find that you have something relating to your overall confidence level or self-esteem that is trying to get you to examine it through
your desire to change another person. This is the referenced language of the Universe acting through your own experience to communicate to you that there is
something that needs a closer look in your life.
You are a product of your experiences both good and bad. The bad experiences in your life should be things that you reference within a logical framework of your mind, and limit
their emotional impact, especially in memory. While allowing the good experiences to manifest emotionally will lead to a strong desire to connect to these
type of realities for you in the future.
There are of course expectations to this approach. In this example, we are talking about romantic inclinations more than issues relating to survival instinct. The crux of the matter
suggests that if you continually feel an emptiness in your emotional self this will carry over to your emotional connections and often times place you in a
position of unrequited desire.
Love in its truest manifestation is about an inward harmony that radiates to the energy field within that you both send out and absorb. And as such, your thoughts
have a tremendous amount of influence on it's outcome from the very beginning.
It is no wonder that self-assured people are confident people, and confident people attract to themselves those that like the feeling that comes from feeling the confidence
in you that becomes the confidence they have in you. Given the right set of circumstances--this is the foundation for a deep emotional attachment.
This concept is easy to put forward in your life; and it is best done before the first interaction with anyone--romantic or casual. An as such, to be plausible, it must begin with you.
If your motive is to attract someone into your life that will care about you as much as you care about them, then it is always best to show them by example. If you give them something
to believe in, then they will believe in you.
Deep from the Desert,
Jared Mars
Enlightenment is the key to everything, and it is the key to intimacy, because it is the goal of true authenticity. -- Marianne Williamson