I think we all know the difference between "wants" and "needs", but how do you ask for them? There are times that the "needs" are so urgent that we may ask for them to be resolved in an or else way. For example, "I need $500.00 by the end of the week or else I'll be evicted." There may be times that we are so pushed to the wall that we just need "it" to stop--all of whatever "it" is. Fear, desperation, dejection, desolation are sadly, some of the most common states we ask for needs to be met.
Remember when I talked about Neutrality? Don't think about it, just name the first emotion that comes to mind. Now, name the emotion at the opposite end of the spectrum from the one you just named. Lastly, come back to the middle of that spectrum. From this neutral space, please read the last sentence of the paragraph above again.
OK? Now consider this: what if we turned all our basic needs into wants and said thank you in the knowledge that our wants would and will be met? If you think about it, how you ask for a "want" to be be fulfilled is similar to how a properly written affirmation works. It engages the heart. Conversely, asking for a "need" to be met out of fear, desperation, etc. works in much the same way as a poorly written affirmation. What if I wrote out and used this affirmation over the next 30 days--stay in your neutral space as you read this--I will not overeat through the holiday season. For those of you who feel energy, that probably just hit like a lead balloon. (It made my stomach hurt.) If you write and/or use affirmations, you know this was a bad one. If I actually wrote that one to use, my brain would see "I will overeat through the holiday season."Our brains often don't register the negative word, so we create or get the exact opposite of our desire.
We all have wants and needs. How you ask for them to be fulfilled is very important. If you can't ask for the need from a neutral, safe, secure space, turn it into a want, a heart's desire. Wants are generally something we desire above and beyond our basic necessities. Most often, we ask for wants from a place of expectation, desire, joy. Wants are that special thing you would ask for on your birthday, or for Christmas, or some other occasion.
Try these:
**I want to make at least $1500.00 per month, which allows me to pay all my bills easily and on time, save x% for my future, and y% for fun and vacations. Thank you!
**I want that promotion at my job. Thank you, because this allows me to use more of my creative abilities, learn some new skills, which helps me increase the strength of my company.
Make a list of your wants and needs. How will you ask for them? Ask from your heart and wants and needs will be fulfilled. However, ask from your head only and you may get what you feared.
See you again soon! Remember your comments are always welcome on the blog. I also have email reading specials going through the end of the year.
With that, a lovely cup of Sweet Dreams tea is calling my name.
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Remember when I talked about Neutrality? Don't think about it, just name the first emotion that comes to mind. Now, name the emotion at the opposite end of the spectrum from the one you just named. Lastly, come back to the middle of that spectrum. From this neutral space, please read the last sentence of the paragraph above again.
OK? Now consider this: what if we turned all our basic needs into wants and said thank you in the knowledge that our wants would and will be met? If you think about it, how you ask for a "want" to be be fulfilled is similar to how a properly written affirmation works. It engages the heart. Conversely, asking for a "need" to be met out of fear, desperation, etc. works in much the same way as a poorly written affirmation. What if I wrote out and used this affirmation over the next 30 days--stay in your neutral space as you read this--I will not overeat through the holiday season. For those of you who feel energy, that probably just hit like a lead balloon. (It made my stomach hurt.) If you write and/or use affirmations, you know this was a bad one. If I actually wrote that one to use, my brain would see "I will overeat through the holiday season."Our brains often don't register the negative word, so we create or get the exact opposite of our desire.
We all have wants and needs. How you ask for them to be fulfilled is very important. If you can't ask for the need from a neutral, safe, secure space, turn it into a want, a heart's desire. Wants are generally something we desire above and beyond our basic necessities. Most often, we ask for wants from a place of expectation, desire, joy. Wants are that special thing you would ask for on your birthday, or for Christmas, or some other occasion.
Try these:
**I want to make at least $1500.00 per month, which allows me to pay all my bills easily and on time, save x% for my future, and y% for fun and vacations. Thank you!
**I want that promotion at my job. Thank you, because this allows me to use more of my creative abilities, learn some new skills, which helps me increase the strength of my company.
Make a list of your wants and needs. How will you ask for them? Ask from your heart and wants and needs will be fulfilled. However, ask from your head only and you may get what you feared.
See you again soon! Remember your comments are always welcome on the blog. I also have email reading specials going through the end of the year.
With that, a lovely cup of Sweet Dreams tea is calling my name.