Linda, thank you for your patience. A part of me necessarily wanted to take my time with this because I felt like the longer I took to view the situation the more I would be able to tell you. Clearly, it's a messed up situation. You've identified your needs and you have seen glimmers of hope. that is, you feel that there are times that he is totally capable of complimenting you and being there for you and being that stable rock that brings excitement to your life at the same time. But you also see a lot of deficiencies to his character which make you believe that rationally speaking this man isn't good for you. There is truth to all of it. And the question now remains whether or not it's worth your investment emotionally to stick with this path.
There is something that you are giving off to this man. Some sort of basic element that he feels (at times that he must have). I'm not sure if sex totally encompasses this desire, but whatever it is your radiating it sticks with him. I see him shaking his head in bewilderment not knowing or having any sort of rational thought as to why, but it does exist and this might be your saving grace going forward. Having said that because he can't rationalize it and his instincts are telling him to go for it his mind is rather confused and wants to cause a little bit of chaos before it all breaks down. What I mean by this is it's almost like he doesn't want to feel this need and he's testing you and himself to see if this is exactly what he wants. That's the rational part and that's why you are feeling a certain distance from this man. But that's just what's going on right now. As with anything the Universe never wants us to get comfortable or in fact set in our ways. You should expect to evaluate this situation with your own true feelings and explore the depth of your soul for answers.
I would like to think that you have nothing to lose and if you feel like you can make a future with this man then rely on that unspoken connection that the two of you have and let that be the ruler of your thoughts going forward. Nothing I say will actually make a difference once YOU have set your mind for the things that you want out of this life. Before any real changes occur you will necessarily have to make this choice yourself and only then will the questions that you have asked be answered to you.
So you might be asking to yourself, well why the hell am I talking to a psychic?
Because there is this allignment process that needs to take place. I feel like the both of you are healing together and that the both of you were placed into a situation where you would be able to support each other during these difficult times. The problem is that as soon as you can feel that the two of you are getting healed you both get afraid and start doubting the situation. Are you really helping me or are you making this situation worse whirls, swirls, and causes havoc to your relationship. I would think that this is exciting more than anything, but who wants to invite chaos into their lives? I'll tell you who...people that are finally ready and accepting of change. But not everybody is this daring and so the Universe again only provides what we are capable of handling.
Whenever he gives off the impression that he feels guilty pleaes ingrain it in your mind that what he is actually saying to you is I'm guilting you and as time goes on and I'm with you see how much I gave up and see how much I did in fact love you to make this work out. That is my promise to you, but don't mess with me.
Is that fair? Absolutley not. Is it the truth. I'm afraid so and it's totally lame. I want you to see right throught the things that he says to you and focus on what he actually does. He wants to create a situation that he was always there for you. I'm just a caveman lawyer who doesn't understand the ways of human love...don't fault me, I'm confused, but I will be loyal to you while I try and confuse the hell out of you.
The truth of the matter is if you could only tap into that part of your energy that truly values your worth then you'd actually be attracting smarter, handsomer, and stronger men. But you don't want to believe that do you? I don't mean to be harsh, it's just that I know there is a part of you that's not being brought out right now and it has everything to do with you just knowing that in this life you're allowed to ask whatever it is that you want under the CONDITONS that have you compromising very little. If you think that means that you will not express, show or recognize his love until he breaks free from your wife....it's not what I mean at all.
Sounds to me like you have a lot to think about. Please call me with the free minutes that I'm sending you. I realize that you would like to ask specific questions. I know it's hard to understand what is going on, and I realize that I'm having you read in between the lines with all of the things that is said to you, but this information is channelled and is meant for you to hear as it is unabridged. Do I think that the two of you will make it? What is making it? I feel like at this point you are willing accept a lot of things that you do not have to so forgiving with. I realize that it's not just all about you and that you have very strong and passionate feelings for this man. I am challenging you to trust what is going on with you and him and to take yourself more seriously. Once this takes place, it will be obvious that he wasn't such the prize and that a suitor that is more on your level is just around the corner. Do I think this man can step up to challenge and match and fulfill the new you? I do.
Truly,
Kent Coffee