You ‘re ready and willing, your advisor has given a thumbs up, and yet... you are still waiting for love. Why hasn’t it happened already? You’ve been waiting for what seems like forever. The biggest question in your life is, “When?” I must quote a song now:
“Mama said, you can’t hurry love, no, you just have to wait.”
And dang it, Mama was right. Because love comes in it’s own sweet time. Even though you’re ready, love may not be. Although, you feel you are ready, there may still be some lessons that you need to experience. Your intended might need more time on their journey before they are ready to join you. Not to mention the whole logistics thing, one right turn instead of left and Love’s GPS has to recalculate both of your paths. So many couples have crazy stories of how they met against all odds.
One of my favorites is the story of Dan and Liz. Dan was born and raised in Australia and Liz was born in Poland. Liz’s family came to America when she was a child. They frequently moved by the time she graduated college she had lived in over 20 states. Dan immigrated to America as a young adult. He stayed in the first city and never left. In all of her travels, Liz, never once visited the state where Dan lived. They both married very young and after 10 years, when they were in their early 30’s they each divorced. Newly single Liz decided she wanted to start over in a new city; the same one that Dan lived in. For three years, they lived in the same city, but somehow never met. Then, their paths crossed. They met while applying for the same job in a busy office complex. They married and had three beautiful children. They just celebrated their twentieth anniversary! It is amazing that they ever found each other.
Just as everything happens for a reason, there is a reason for everything that doesn’t happen. As we gain life lessons, the reasons are better understood. It like a young child that knows there is a delicious cake sitting on the kitchen counter. The child really wants to eat that cake right now, before dinner. She doesn’t understand why this is a big problem. In her mind, she has everything she needs to eat it. She has a fork, a plate, a mouth, a desire, so why can’t she have it when she wants it? None of the fussing and yelling will convince the mother to give in to the child’s demands, not because the parent is being mean or punishing the child, it’s because the parent knows what is best for the child. The parent will serve the nutritious meal first and after it’s completion, the child gets the dessert. Everything happens in it’s own time.
Timing is everything, and love always arrives at exactly the right time, whenever that might be. Poor Sleeping Beauty had to wait one hundred years for her true love. I know of a couple that dated when they were in their early twenties. It did not go well, and they quickly went their separate ways. About six years later, they reconnected and found that they were quite compatible. They had each needed to travel down their paths and grow some before they were ready for love. Their first child was born a few months ago, and they make such a happy family.
Love always arrives at exactly the right time. It may not be on the schedule that you wanted, but it will be the right time. The hard part is waiting patiently for the right time. What do you do in the mean time? For suggestions, please refer to my previous post “At the Speed of...a Snail.”